I’m always rather perfectionistic and idealistic when it comes to setting resolutions to do better, whether it’s for the new year or the next day. I want to do a thousand things all at once, and then I get disappointed when I start slacking (which I inevitably will) and in the end, I just want to crawl under my blankets and abandon everything.
A friend recently told me that people overestimate what they can achieve in a day and underestimate what they can achieve in a month. With this in mind, I’m going to try to not overburden myself and instead do a little each day, to achieve bigger results in the long run.
It’s also common knowledge by now that it takes about 3 weeks to form a new habit and that it’s better to focus on creating one good habit at a time. So I’m going to create a “build-up” plan, taking one habit at a time and adding a new one after a month has passed. Hopefully this will prevent me from feeling overwhelmed.
So without further ado, I’d like to share with you my “bare-minimum” resolutions (i.e. what I’m going to do each day without exception and which shouldn’t be too challenging to keep up) and the good habits I’d like to integrate as the year progresses.
1. Bare-minimum resolutions
– 15 min of meditation: sitting somewhere quiet, gently letting go of my thoughts, breathing into my body, focussing on how I’m feeling and putting my hands on my heart and belly.
To ease my restless mind, I’d also take the time to note down any ideas or thoughts that seem really urgent, instead of fighting them.
– Carving out two hours of my day to do deep work on my thesis (i.e. with total focus)
– Jotting down at least one thing that went well for me each day and depositing it in my “Happiness Jar” (thanks to Elizabeth Gilbert for the idea).
2. Good habits waiting to be mastered by me
– Exercising 3 times a week (mix of running and Pilates) because I want a stronger, more healthy body
– Journalling at least 3 times a week
– Cooking more frequently and learning new recipes.
– Improving my French and Arabic, because they are beautiful languages and it would help me greatly in my search after a wonderful job after I’m graduated
– Meditating 30 minutes a day
– Keeping my bedroom tidy, because I deserve a space where I feel peaceful, relaxed and which reflects me completely.
– Studying for my theoretical exam so I can start practising to drive a car and get my driver’s license (I’ve been putting this off for years because ugh). I want to get my driver’s license so I can be more independent.
– Spending at least 20 minutes a day on writing poetry or fiction, because it makes me happy and fulfilled.
Happy new year to you, dear reader. I wish you all the best for 2016 and may you find the courage and energy to stick to your resolutions and create a better life for yourself. May you also find infinite tenderness towards yourself when things didn’t go quite as planned. 🙂